NO! Small yet powerful word. More often than not it connotes negativity such as declining one’s favor or offer. When one hears this two-letter word a dismay, a feeling of discomfort or even tears etched in ones looks. True enough that brings forth negative emotions. But have you ever thought of the positive affects it may bring into your life?
I myself is trapped with this dilemma. I am a giver type of person. Hence, saying NO is never in my system. I always find it hard to say NO when a friend or family member ask from me. Then I realized that I was building the foundation of dependency.
Just recently I experienced the same fate. I caught in a situation wherein I always say YES every time my ex-lover asked to visit me in my apartment. I love the feeling of seeing ex-lover around. Honestly there is something in my heart that keeps on pounding every time we spend time together. But, the saddest part is – I am just a friend. Yes, a friend and nothing more. Poor lad.
Yesterday was very remarkable. It was the very first time I said NO. I was elated and proud of my self as I combat with my heart’s beating. In the end my mind’s prowess emerged as the victor.
Twas the start of letting go of the past the keeps on haunting me. A past the holds me hopeful. Now, I started to look out the window and see how beautiful life is outside the prison wall I created for myself.
Once I master the art of saying NO, letting go would be a lot bearable. There will be no more pain or tear. Now I espy that saying NO can sometimes bring a smile to ones face. Just like I did…